I am an onlooker.
I watch and evaluate.
I calculate and plan.
When it comes to the behavior of people and the psychological thoughts they emit, I am absolutely mesmerized.
So, as I walk around the mall, campus, park as I run, store, (you name it) I can't help but watch and evaluate.
Overtime, I've learned that all people think in the same rote manner as machines. With closed eyes people watch global and national issues. They pray that someone else will fix the issue as they continue on their blessed lives. A couple of weeks later, their fascination with the event is over and it soon becomes another event to jog down in a high school yearbook.
Now, before you begin to harshly judge me for the above information, I'll let you in on a secret: I'm half kidding. "Well, which half is which?" you may say. Well all of the above information is true. The part that isn't is the fact that I am just as much to blame as you may be when it comes to becoming a better individual in today's society, however, there is a group of individuals who dedicate themselves to bettering this stubborn world we call life.
Being passive has proven time, time, time again to be neglectful and inefficient. For example, we've all heard about the onlooker problem and it's relationship with bullying in our young teen's lives in which teens who witness bullying in action are either too afraid or simply don't care enough to be of aid to the person who is being bullied. Because of this, more people are suffering the consequences of growing up in a school where they don't feel that anyone is on their side. They too can become emotionless and some even become cruel and self-destructive since they didn't receive love from their peers, the people they may want to impress the most. Therefore, it doesn't surprise me that people in today's society are nearly 40% less compassionate than they were in the 80's.
So what could possibly be to blame for all these machine like, passive, nonchalant people in today's world? Well, it's not like I know specifically. I mean, I'm studying aerospace engineering not human behavior (lol). However, I could point out a few components.
So, as I walk around the mall, campus, park as I run, store, (you name it) I can't help but watch and evaluate.
Overtime, I've learned that all people think in the same rote manner as machines. With closed eyes people watch global and national issues. They pray that someone else will fix the issue as they continue on their blessed lives. A couple of weeks later, their fascination with the event is over and it soon becomes another event to jog down in a high school yearbook.
Now, before you begin to harshly judge me for the above information, I'll let you in on a secret: I'm half kidding. "Well, which half is which?" you may say. Well all of the above information is true. The part that isn't is the fact that I am just as much to blame as you may be when it comes to becoming a better individual in today's society, however, there is a group of individuals who dedicate themselves to bettering this stubborn world we call life.
Being passive has proven time, time, time again to be neglectful and inefficient. For example, we've all heard about the onlooker problem and it's relationship with bullying in our young teen's lives in which teens who witness bullying in action are either too afraid or simply don't care enough to be of aid to the person who is being bullied. Because of this, more people are suffering the consequences of growing up in a school where they don't feel that anyone is on their side. They too can become emotionless and some even become cruel and self-destructive since they didn't receive love from their peers, the people they may want to impress the most. Therefore, it doesn't surprise me that people in today's society are nearly 40% less compassionate than they were in the 80's.
So what could possibly be to blame for all these machine like, passive, nonchalant people in today's world? Well, it's not like I know specifically. I mean, I'm studying aerospace engineering not human behavior (lol). However, I could point out a few components.
“Selfishness must always be forgiven, you know, because there is no hope for a cure.”
- Jane austen from Mansfield park
Sorry Jane, I've gotta disagree with you on that one. We absolutely cannot keep forgiving people for being selfish. We have to become active members of the change in this world.
The reason why I believe our passiveness in society has grown to an all time peak is because of these key reasons: first, we've been taught that it's okay to push yourself past your limits but at the expense of others.
Here's a crazy idea: how about we all grow together?
In a hypothetical situation where we all took away our pride (I'll speak on that later) and built each other up without the forceful push down of others, we'd naturally become more empathetic as each one of us would have had a part in each other's growth as an individual.
Life is honestly so damn tough and I say that not because I believe mine is, but rather I've read and heard so many stories from people with 4x more experience and wisdom as I do. Part of the roughness of life is that we have unconsciously (or consciously) have created a world where Charles Darwin's natural selection has itself morphed into a materialistic natural selection which utilizes money, physical control, and harsh words to control the weak.
My friends, it doesn't have to be this way! How we have created our lives together doesn't have to continue. We all have contributed to this society, but we are the only ones who can to change it. The fact that we've built it proves that we are the ones who can dismantle it. How? The answer is easy, but the work is not: teamwork.
Second, I believe false pride is the root of each person's lack of true self-esteem. Yes, I am a victim of this myself. In all honesty, except for maybe Deepok Chopra, Maya Angelou, and Kanye West (I know there's more individuals who have over time pushed past their inner demons), everyone is suffering from this. I'm even more sure that despite these people have a true air of confidence, they still suffer fazes of not feeling they are the best that they can be.
I don't want to elaborate and stress how common it is to feel that you're a piece of shit as I'd rather elaborate on how to push past it, but one thing I never quite learned growing up was that everyone suffers from false pride.
Pushing past false pride require inner peace. Now, I'm not your girl on trying to figure out how to find your inner peace, but my girl Layan Bubbly can do that for you. However, I do know that research, perhaps meditation, and experiencing life can help you find your true self. That's why my favorite quote is "do yourself a favor: become your own savior." Only you can change your fate, your path. You choose your decisions. Once you decide to stop blaming others, you will master your fears and you will have true pride for yourself that will help benefit others.
My last component on why we're so damn reluctant to being the change we see in the world is because we have no more hope.
Actually, we do.
"Where?" you may ask. Well, look here, here, and here. Check out those links. See how you can get involved (and I don't mean taking a petty trip to Africa once. Something like this is a life-long job).
What I'm trying to say is that change begins with one person. Just one. It is the redirection of the mind, the gradual change in the thought process, and the eventual repeated fluidity of actions from the body (that last part takes more time than the others). And no, I haven't mastered this myself, but as I said, there's always someone else who is struggling like you may be and there's always someone who is on the same path as you are (aka me).
Don't be an onlooker. And while you promise to work on that, I'll work on it too. Don't calculate your movements. If you feel it's wrong or right, act on it. Do what you need to do to prove that you want to literally be the change in this beautiful world.
The reason why I believe our passiveness in society has grown to an all time peak is because of these key reasons: first, we've been taught that it's okay to push yourself past your limits but at the expense of others.
Here's a crazy idea: how about we all grow together?
In a hypothetical situation where we all took away our pride (I'll speak on that later) and built each other up without the forceful push down of others, we'd naturally become more empathetic as each one of us would have had a part in each other's growth as an individual.
Life is honestly so damn tough and I say that not because I believe mine is, but rather I've read and heard so many stories from people with 4x more experience and wisdom as I do. Part of the roughness of life is that we have unconsciously (or consciously) have created a world where Charles Darwin's natural selection has itself morphed into a materialistic natural selection which utilizes money, physical control, and harsh words to control the weak.
My friends, it doesn't have to be this way! How we have created our lives together doesn't have to continue. We all have contributed to this society, but we are the only ones who can to change it. The fact that we've built it proves that we are the ones who can dismantle it. How? The answer is easy, but the work is not: teamwork.
Second, I believe false pride is the root of each person's lack of true self-esteem. Yes, I am a victim of this myself. In all honesty, except for maybe Deepok Chopra, Maya Angelou, and Kanye West (I know there's more individuals who have over time pushed past their inner demons), everyone is suffering from this. I'm even more sure that despite these people have a true air of confidence, they still suffer fazes of not feeling they are the best that they can be.
I don't want to elaborate and stress how common it is to feel that you're a piece of shit as I'd rather elaborate on how to push past it, but one thing I never quite learned growing up was that everyone suffers from false pride.
Pushing past false pride require inner peace. Now, I'm not your girl on trying to figure out how to find your inner peace, but my girl Layan Bubbly can do that for you. However, I do know that research, perhaps meditation, and experiencing life can help you find your true self. That's why my favorite quote is "do yourself a favor: become your own savior." Only you can change your fate, your path. You choose your decisions. Once you decide to stop blaming others, you will master your fears and you will have true pride for yourself that will help benefit others.
My last component on why we're so damn reluctant to being the change we see in the world is because we have no more hope.
Actually, we do.
"Where?" you may ask. Well, look here, here, and here. Check out those links. See how you can get involved (and I don't mean taking a petty trip to Africa once. Something like this is a life-long job).
What I'm trying to say is that change begins with one person. Just one. It is the redirection of the mind, the gradual change in the thought process, and the eventual repeated fluidity of actions from the body (that last part takes more time than the others). And no, I haven't mastered this myself, but as I said, there's always someone else who is struggling like you may be and there's always someone who is on the same path as you are (aka me).
Don't be an onlooker. And while you promise to work on that, I'll work on it too. Don't calculate your movements. If you feel it's wrong or right, act on it. Do what you need to do to prove that you want to literally be the change in this beautiful world.